Episode 177: Where did the joy go?

“By constant self-discipline and self-control, you can develop greatness of character.”
— Grenville Kleiser

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to share HOW I drastically shifted every aspect of my life and showed you how to do the same. 

Today I’m going to share how it all began… 

Eight years ago I finally got frustrated enough to change my life. “Normal” wasn’t working for me anymore. 

I thought there was something wrong with me. I wanted more. 

I did as society expected. 

Went to school. 
Worked for ambitious goals. 
Applied for the ’stable’ Social Work job. 
And bought the mini van. 
Got married. 
Birthed children. 

“Is this it?” I asked myself.

“There’s no joy here. It’s soul sucking. I can’t stand it. I can’t live like this.” As I cried myself to sleep, masking my tears so no one could hear me. 

The conclusion from therapy: “You’ve had a lot of trauma in your life. I believe you are clinically depressed.” 

The conclusion from Doctor: “There is no medical reason, based on the tests I’ve done to show why you would be so tired all the time.” 

The conclusion from my journal: “Divorce is coming. I can see it. Why do people even get married? All I do is scream and yell, why? WTF is wrong with me? I’ve looked everywhere for help. I’ve purchased every book. I don’t get it. What am I doing wrong? I want to change but HOW???? “

And the icing on the cake from friends and family. “Oh Heather, it will get better. Just wait.” 

But the truth was I couldn’t wait any longer. The longer I waited, the closer I was to death. 

Thoughts of ending it all crossed my mind daily, but I didn’t want to die, I just had no idea how to live. I was single and a mother now. It was no longer just about me. I had someone who needed me. 

And this is where the journey began to bring me back to life. 


The first time I hired a coach I was on Facebook and seen an ad for a program called “Abundant Yogi” at this time I was starting to get excited about the idea of teaching mindful meditation to children so I thought I’d check it out. 

Kris Ward was her name, and I remember she was wearing ripped jeans and talking about business. This excited me. A woman in business, making money doing what she loved while wearing the clothes she felt comfortable in. YES! 

I registered for her free-gift and binged on the whole video training series until 3 am. I was inspired! 

Eventually, I got on the phone with Kris and fell in love with her way of teaching. Instantly things started to shift. 

We weren't digging into the past. We were making plans for the future and ACTING on them. 

I made a conscious decision to invest in the life I WANTED. 

I wanted so badly to feel in control of my life but I wasn't sure WHAT ACTIONS I NEEDED TO TAKE ON A DAILY BASIS to make the change I wanted. 

And this is what the Mom Is In Control Mastermind Experience is all about. 

This program and process is about showing you how to make the change (not just talk about it). 

I will show you… 

  • How to get clear on how exactly you want to feel in your life (without digging into the past). 
  • How to set up your day and week so you can work, parent and still feel like you have time to invest in what matters most to you (relationships, health, purpose based worked, etc…) 
  • How to get out of your way. I will guide you with compassion and show you how you’re getting stuck. 

What you get in the Mom Is In Control Mastermind… 

  • 1:1 attention from me (you can’t hide). 
  • A sense of community and sisterhood, connecting with other women on a  similar path. 
  • Proven ’step by step’ action based modules so you can watch and implement again and again, no more waiting until our next coaching session. 
  • Email/text access to me in between sessions that will help you quickly get unstuck and moving towards your goals. 

FREEDOM! To be who you were born to be. Parent in a way that feels good to you and LIVE in alignment. 

Imagine yourself a year from now live, breathing and parenting from a place beyond your wildest dreams. 

Imagine having someone there who calls you out on your BS when you’re trying to play small. Someone who believes in you, when you don’t yet believe in yourself. 

I’m telling you, it’s all possible — you just have to be willing to take action to make it happen (without burning yourself out). 

Are you curious and committed enough to take the next step? 

If the answer is YES! Fill out the application on this page, and my team will be in touch with your next step. 

Parenting doesn’t have to be a daily struggle (even if you’re blessed with a “difficult” child). 

Your bank account can be abundant, even if you’re a single parent. 

And you can wake up excited for your day and energized to get moving. 

I look forward to reading your application (click here). 




P.S. If you have specific questions about the program let me know. Hit ‘reply’ and ask. 

I will be answering questions about the MIIC Mastermind Program LIVE on Facebook in a few days. If you’d like to get notifications - follow my biz page here. 

What: Q&A: Learn About The MIIC Mastermind

When: July 11th at 11am EST 

Where: On Facebook

How to join: Save the date and meet us here on Facebook. 


Heather Chauvin