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Worrying About Others: Gift or Curse?

by Heather Chauvin

Last week I spent everyday with 10 beautiful and amazing young ladies, between the ages of 12 and 15. They come from all walks of life and yet, at their core, they all struggle with the same limiting beliefs.

Every time we have a new camp, I’m always really excited to see what girls enter the room, see how they present themselves to the world, my first impression of them, and their first impression of me.

This time one girl really grabbed my attention. I will call her Sarah.

Sarah was extremely quiet, reserved, and sweet.

When we got on the topics of worry, guilt, and anxiety, Sarah openly talked about her struggles with worry and how she hated the feeling of seeing someone in pain. She could walk into a room and immediately know how someone was feeling and wanted to help them. Even just talking about this put her in tears.

Someone might  say Sarah is ‘too sensitive’ or ‘worries too much’. She was open about the fact that she is in therapy but doesn’t feel it is helping because talking about her problems only make them bigger and made her feel worse about herself.

As the day went on, she began to lower her guard. Sarah started opening up about her life, what she truly enjoys and how she wants to feel on a daily basis. She continued to tell me that she’s a twin, that her sister has Asperger’s,  that she’s always worried about her sister, that her parents are divorced, and her mom is hard working.  So Sarah has a lot of responsibility at home. Sarah was proud of herself for accepting the extra responsibility but she didn’t like the worry that came along with it.

Then something shifted.

We started talking about energy, about how our bodies vibrate and emit energy constantly.  When we practice with and understand this energy we have the power (and ability) to change not only the way we feel but also to detect the way others feel without even talking to them.

I saw a light bulb go off within Sarah.  Her body shifted from “there is something wrong with me” to “ I have a gift.”

But I wasn’t totally convinced that she fully embodied this. I wanted to do an experiment to see if she fully trusted and understood what she had just learned about herself.

The experiment: We put her gifts to the test.

Another girl offered up her sweater as a blindfold. They all stood in a line and were given an emotion to feel silently by positioning their body language and internal thinking. Sarah was unaware of who was supposed to be happy and who was supposed to be sad.

Sarah walked down the line using only her hands to ‘feel’ the energy being released from each person. She was not allowed to touch them.

The result.

She was able to guess 6 out of 8 emotions correctly. The look on her face when she took off the blindfold was breathtaking.

“There is nothing wrong with me. I have a gift!”

How does this relate to you?

Regardless of what you want to believe or not, we are energy. We are living, breathing organisms. We are all affected by our environments and we all have the ability to feel and be affected by what is going on around us. Understanding your gifts and how to use them effectively is the internal shift that is needed when we are looking to  understand where our fear, anxiety and worry come from.

Our bodies were created to naturally repair and heal themselves.

Sarah’s story is very common with children today who are more aware their surroundings and not knowing how to effectively cope with their physical emotions.

Instead what is happening is children are taught not to feel, that something is wrong and that they need to be fixed.

Of course they do not need to be fixed! Yet, more and more children are being diagnosed and prescribed medications to deal with anxiety and other “negative” behaviors/feelings.

So what can you do differently?

1) Shift your perspective from ‘problem’ to ‘natural gifts.’ Ask yourself, how would my life (or my child’s life) be different if I were to look at this issue from a different point of view?

2) Understand that the body was designed to naturally repair itself. Get educated. Ask your healthcare provider questions. Do the research yourself before following the ‘prescription’ from someone else.

3) Seek out the right support. When trying to support your children (or yourself) through a difficult problem. Do not go with the first person you come across in the phonebook. Find someone you connect with, who is willing to answer your questions and listen to you. Someone who shares the same beliefs as you.

I would love to hear what gifts you uncover and how the shift in perspective helps you.  Share below or on the community Facebook page.  I’m looking forward to seeing what you discover.

Much Love,

P.S. I will shortly be re-launching my Chaos to Clarity Coaching Intensive Program. As of next week I will be accepting applications for families who are ready to get off of autopilot and take action. This program is NOT for everyone. It’s intense. We get right to the core of the issue and transform the whole family. If this is something that peaks your interest, hit ‘reply’ and let me know. I will put you on the application waitlist.



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Heather Chauvin is a mental health and self-esteem advocate who has made it her mission to enhance the lives of women and children through conscious living. Heather has a Bachelor of Social Worker Degree and wide variety of continuing education certification in the mental health and holistic sector. Heather also carries a decade of experience working with many diverse populations locally and abroad. Heather leads dynamic training programs that teach both adults and children to succeed in life and accomplish anything they put their minds to. Her unique life experience and professional trainings gives Heather a one-of-a kind approach to personal growth and development.

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