I want to show you something, that not a lot of people talk about.
This past summer I had the opportunity to connect with some amazing girls
between the ages of 8-15 during a week long self esteem leadership camp.
Our goal was to bring these girls together, help them overcoming limiting beliefs and give them their power back. This will allow them to speak their truth and find who they really are.
My agenda changed after I met a girl named Gift.
She was miserable and disrespectful… and I was ok with that.
She showed up late and was withdrawn… and I gave her space.
Most people believe when a child is ‘acting out’ they are being disrespectful on purpose as a form of punishment.
But really… it has nothing to do with you. When a child ‘acts out’ that is a sign that something deeper is going. There is a internal confrontation that needs to be resolved in order for the behavior to disappear.
A child’s behavior is a ‘symptom’ to an even deeper internal struggle and if this symptom is ignored the struggle will never disappear.
Gift’s story is just one example of what an empowered child looks like once they see they have the ability to change the way they think and feel about themselves (regardless of social pressures).
So in parenting instead of focusing on what is pissing you off, or what is going wrong, ask your kids questions.
- What’s up?
- Did something happen today that upset you?
- Why are you so angry?
When I went deeper with Gift I discovered what was really going on. What she was really struggling with and what she needed to feel better. Although a week may not have resolved all her internal struggles she did walk away with a shift in her perspective and a smile on her face.
What do you do when you see your child struggling?
Leave me a comment below.